Love’s Significance; How Is Love Related To Consciousness?

In this article, we will examine in detail love’s significance; what love is all about; its spiritual-intellectual, psychological, emotional, and mental importance that is intimately aligned with spiritual-emotional-physical-mental health, which signifies that through the appropriate adjustments of the alignment of the spiritual-emotional, psychological-physical, and spiritual-mental axes:

Someone can achieve and maintain success and meanwhile be able to find happiness, fulfillment, and satisfaction in the purpose and meaning of life and become confident of being wholeheartedly in the right place at the right time, enabling the achievement of a deeper spiritual understanding of life, spiritual empowerment and upliftment according to Plato’s ladder of love which represents the path of love as an ascent from, initially, pure physical attraction to, finally, love of divinity.

We might require a new approach or a new philosophy of love, in effect.

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Consciousness is a cognitive and behavioral system or mechanism in states or stages based on the main or fundamental principles of the:

  • duality principle as a mental state of combining two opposing or competing forces through critical thinking,
  • equivalence principle by splitting the combined opposing into opposite or antagonistic forces and equating them as a condition (of being equal in value, worth, or function) through analytical thinking,
  • equality principle by equating the opposite forces as a state (of being equal in status, rights, or opportunities) through reasonable justification and synthetic thinking,
  • equity principle by constantly striving to attain a balance (having or exhibiting equity – dealing fairly and equally – a state of equilibrium) due to the equal action of the opposite forces, towards a choice through free will,
  • causality principle by relating the causally unrelated (yet have some other unknown connection) opposite forces as cause and effect through the resonance principle,
  • synchronicity principle by attaining, achieving, or maintaining inner peace or balance between the opposite forces, as meaningful coincidences or experiences, as facets of an infinite wellspring of divine intervention, creativity, spiritual love, and help.

Human consciousness is the mental condition of the existence of a state or property as a precondition for the transition from one state or property to another, through a constant strive for inner peace or balance as purpose and meaning of life, through different levels of spiritual awareness:

  • by interpreting chance events as meaningful experiences through free will,
  • based always on the personal virtues and morals humanity values the most,
  • supported and maintained by giving and receiving love and help as a steering mechanism,

through the:

  • action-reaction forces
  • interaction forces of cause and effect (causality or causation),
  • cognitive interaction of serial love levels of the two main or primary types of love in steps or stages,
  • conscious-unconscious, preconscious-subconscious, and conscious-non-conscious minds,
  • based on cognitive intelligence (intellectual, emotional, analytical, synthetic, non-conscious, and causal intelligence).

The Two Primary Feelings and Emotions

“Deep down, at our cores, there are only two main types of love one as a core feeling and one as a core feeling and emotion:

love as spiritual love or feeling (bid to know or sense divine Kallos as beauty or excellence to its highest degree or worth by exercising love as a force through the ascending of the ladder of love as a mean of leverage that is an inborn human right, privilege or truth as a chance), and

loving someone or something as both feeling (as a strong feeling of affection and concern) and emotion (falling in-love) accompanied by sexual attraction (ask to experience spiritual love to its maximum value or potential through the opposing force to the ladder of love that is the ladder of fear of love that triggers emotions of fear and displeasure as a choice through free will)”

Love as spiritual love:

Love as spiritual love (feelings of affection towards spiritual connection that helps us find meaning and purpose in life); is a primary feeling or force. Love as a feeling ranges from selfish to selfless love (true love); is also a primary feeling, element, or step on the rung of the ladder of love.

Love as a feeling:

Loving someone is a primary feeling and emotion reflecting the emotional needs of a person  (as a strong feeling of affection and concern toward another person as that arising from kinship or close friendship or a strong feeling of affection and concern for another person accompanied by sexual attraction).

Love as an emotion:

Love as an emotion (loving someone or something) ranges from fearful to fearless love (self-love). Fear of – falling in – love is also a primary emotion; a sub-element, type, or step as a barrier on the ladder of the fear of love that is an opposing force to the ladder of love in humans. 

Any other feelings and emotions lay in between and interact through the primary ones and especially through loving someone as having a double quality (sensed both as a feeling – loving someone – and experienced as emotion as fear of – falling in – love or simply fear of love).

All other types of love, feelings, and emotions exist under these two primary ones: either love as an emotion comes from a place of fear or a place of love.

 © - The Cognitive Mechanism of Consciousness
© – The Cognitive Mechanism of Consciousness
  • Love or spiritual love (bid to know or sense divine Kallos by the exertion of love as a force or means of change or leverage) and loving someone or something (ask to experience spiritual love to its maximum potential by overcoming the initial step or barrier that is the fear of love) are opposing (acting in opposition; opposing) and not opposites (moving in opposite directions).
  • Kallos (a Greek word meaning beautiful or excellence) is a sensational stimulus as a combination of qualities, such as shape, color, or form, that pleases the aesthetic senses, especially sight.
  • Sensational stimuli are processed by the cognitive mechanisms that generate the appropriate mixture of positive affective stimuli (love) and negative affective stimuli (fear of love).
  • Love and fear of love (as a sub-element of loving someone) are dualities; a balanced interaction of opposing and competing forces by providing and accepting love and help.
  • Love is a gut feeling; an instinct; an inborn impulse or motivation; an active force; an instinctive feeling; a mental state that is unleashed by the senses; a positive affective stimulus that triggers feelings of joy, and pleasure; a cause for change.
  • Positive affective stimuli range from selfish love, which tends to prioritize one’s desires and needs above the needs and desires of their partner and the relationship to selfless or true love, which is about sacrificing everything for another and accepting the other without judgment.
  • Loving someone or something is both a feeling and an emotion; in this case, a feeling is an objective emotional state (working as a bridge between feelings and emotions); an emotion is a subjective emotional state.
  • Loving someone or something as an objective emotional state; sticking to the facts and disregarding emotions; keeping an emotional distance; an idea; a reactive force; a mental state brought on by neurophysiological change.
  • Loving someone or something is also a subjective emotional state based on influences by personal feelings interpretations or prejudices; the fear of love as the first step draws negative emotions of rejection that is actually an illusion; a false idea or belief; a state of experiencing; a misinterpreted perception of a sensory experience; or a misleading image presented to the visionan intuitive emotion distinguished from reasoning or knowledge; a negative affective stimulus that triggers emotions of fear and displeasure.
  • Negative affective stimuli range from fearful love which is a threat to our physical, emotional, or psychological well-being to fearless or self-love which is a genuine relationship that is not dominated by the ego.

Opposing means to be in conflict or competition with something.

The opposite is something completely different of a contrary kind e.g. the opposite of yes is no.

Love breeds positive feelings like joy, peace, and satisfaction. Fear of love breeds negative emotions like anger, guilt, and sadness.

“Duality means a state of having two different parts, forces, elements or qualities such as:

in-love as a feeling (having substance as a strong drive, force or cause) that is another element or step in the ladder of love (bid to know or sense divine Kallos, as beauty or excellence, at its highest degree or worth by the exertion of love as a force or means of change or leverage), as an offer, effort or attempt and

falling – in-love as an emotion (experiencing existence as strong resistance to falling – in love as an effect) that is the main emotional element in the ladder of the fear of love (ask to experience spiritual love to its highest value or potential by exercising the fear of love as an opposing force to love or resistance to change) and also as a way of reinforcing, experiencing or sustaining change,

which coexist in a balanced interaction as complementary opposing forces of affection (tender attachment) combining with intimacy (engaged in, involving) within the whole , in order to create spiritual-emotional closeness”

Affection and intimacy as combined are those that join or merge to form love as a single unit or substance; combining in such a way as to enhance or emphasize the qualities of one another.

Love as a combined single unit or substance consists of two opposing elements or forces: in-love (in a state of strong emotional attachment and usually sexual attraction) combined with falling-in-love (being in love which is a part of life that many people want to experience). Love in turn (as a whole) makes the world go round – literally – while loving someone is more permanent and long-lasting.

Love as a combined single unit then splits (is forced to break) and is divided into two or more groups, parts, or forces, especially into halves. Love is divided and shared especially into opposite or antagonistic parts or forces of resources and responsibilities (into means and ways as action-reaction forces).

In opposition, when we’re in a state of inner balanced interaction of competing forces we can also be in a place of love and fear of love at the same time interchangeably (as the two sides of the same coin – the principle of duality).

Fear of love is not the absence of love. Like eros and sadness, love and fear of love are dualities that live in the same chamber of the heart. When we feel love, fear of love will rear its head”

But why do people find it difficult to accept intense affection and appreciation? Some of them think that they are not worthy of being loved. Others have been hurt so much in love that they are afraid to open up again and deal wholeheartedly with another person. Everyone has created protective armor to protect themselves from being injured again. But love requires spiritual and emotional closeness and it only works when you take off your armor.

“The degree of the level or stage of love depends directly on the density of the opposing fear of love

Since you can feel either love or fear of love at the same time, you are going to have to actively or consciously choose one or the other. However, since many of us would likely rather be consciously in a place of love rather than a place of fear of love, we have to consciously act to be in that place, no matter what we choose.

Love Significance, Love vs. Fear of Love, Chance, Choice, Synchronicity, and Free Will

“Fear of love is the reflection of love as lie is the reflection of truth. Striving always for love and truth you become both the mirror image and an optical effect of this self-reflection at will”

Humanity doesn’t completely understand what love is all about (especially spiritual or divine beauty as the love that is the actual source and the end course in the ladder of love) because it hasn’t fully experienced it yet; that’s why any trial for an explanation of its origin and utility throughout human history is partially correct or incomplete; love, however, is perceived as worth, while fear of love is perceived as it’s valued, based mostly on the value system of an individual.

In addition, humanity hasn’t realized that fear of love constitutes a necessary step as a trial that has to be overcome (it’s the first and most significant step) toward the fulfillment of ourselves on the ladder of the fear of love as opposed to the ladder of love that reflects the desire to complete ourselves by finding the long-lost “other half” that is to finally know, sense divine Kallos as beauty or excellence (having substance) and experience spiritual love (experiencing existence) both at the same time through synchronicity as meaningful coincidences or experiences.

Kallos: An Ancient Greek Ideal for Beauty

To love actually means to be willing to know or sense divine Kallos (having substance) and loving someone or something is asking to experience this spiritual love (experiencing existence). That further means:

  • the ability to exercise free will and choice as a human’s birthright or privilege.
  • to feel free to know divine Kallos and offer love to others (bid to know or sense divine beauty by leveraging love) that also means (bid as an attempt to freely know and offer love) through self-reflection by being in a state of being free of fear, brave, or fearless (self-reflection curve).
  • to be free to accept help from others (by asking to experience help to its maximum potential) through self-conceptualization by being selfless and concerned more about your own needs [self-conceptualization curve meeting with self-reflection curve at the equilibrium point (1) or to be].
  • fear of love means to feel neither free to know divine Kallos as beauty or excellence by offering love nor to use it to its maximum advantage by accepting help from others by being selfish and fearful at the same time and refers to a mental blockage of the procedure or spiritual-emotional distantness – instead of closeness – through polarization at the edges, leading obviously to paralysis.
  • to qualify to know or sense divine Kallos as beauty or excellence by providing love to others (supply or offer love as a skill or an effort) through the self-satisfaction curve (dealing with difficult emotions of fear of rejection) and
  • to be response-able to return the help as a reward for the love you receive from others (demand love in return for help provided) through the self-fulfillment curve [dealing with overflowing feelings of love and acceptance meeting with self-satisfaction curve at the equilibrium point (2) or to exist].
  • Inner peace means being in a state of experiencing happiness [(self-satisfaction through self-actualization which is: the complete realization of one’s potential, and self-realization which is: the full development of one’s abilities and appreciation for life) and self-contentment (self-fulfillment through self-imagination which is the imagination of an event from a personal perspective which means destined to happen or to exist or simply destiny) at the same time [supply-demand equilibrium, love-in-love equilibrium, or self-actualization – self-imagination equilibrium point (3) or meant to be (which means self-actualized or self-realized or meant to have substance or simply fate or purpose).
  • This self-actualization – self-imagination equilibrium point (3) or meant to be (fate or purpose) and meant to exist (destiny or meaning), finally coincides with both the self-reflection – self-conceptualization equilibrium point (1) or to be, and the self-satisfaction – self-fulfillment equilibrium point (2) or to exist.

Inner peace or the equilibrium point of self-actualization – self-imagination as a response-ability reflects the basic principle of the golden mean(laid down by Aristotle) that focuses on moderation, striving for balance throughout the desirable middle ground between two extremes one of excess and one of deficiency, and maintaining inner peace or balance by exercising the synchronicity principle by freely giving and receiving love and help.

According to the principle, you should aim for the chances as causes and motives and understand how they relate to every situation, instead of looking for the effects of the choices as your reactions to actions, and handle the situation internally than externally by utilizing a more proactive and not reactive approach.

On the other hand, what would our lives be like if we were never afraid of anything? What risk would we take? The fear of love holds us back, many people do not realize how much it held them back until they reached the end of their lives – and until then, it may be too late to do anything about it.

“Striving for inner peace or balance reflects the basic principle of the golden mean, that is atained by balancing action-reaction as equal and opposite forces through free will, that is actually:

attaining a state of equilibrium by equating an action force as a chance (that is a condition by value, worth, or function) to a reaction force as a choice (that is a state by status, rights or opportunities)

forming an antagonistic relationship, by taking a leap of faith”

Maintaining inner peace or balance is attained by excercising the synchronicity principle by receiving (and not offering) love and offering (not receiving) help, through a balanced antagonism, interaction or opposition, by being in an antagonistic relationship as purpose and meaning of life”

Striving for inner peace or balance is attained by balancing chances to choices as action-reaction forces in stages or phases by turning:

  • chances to uncertainties (chances as possibilities grow in a space of uncertainty as its main purpose – not knowing what comes next is also good) and
  • choices to certainties (choices as certainties constitute the meaning of the existence of the quality of probabilities of being reliably true).

Chances and choices before turning to uncertainties-certainties are expressed as possibilities-probabilities by offering love (through feelings) and experienced by accepting help (through emotions) as opposing or competing forces.

Chances and choices after turning to uncertainties-certainties (through cognitive intervention) accepting love, and offering help are the new opposite forces forming a balanced relationship as a revised purpose and meaning of life, that is actually taking action as a leap of faith for something to occur or happen, in order:

  • to discover who you ”really” are.
  • to make yourself feel “whole”.
  • to feel excited and anew.
  • to have no fear.
  • to be more intuitive.
  • to feel a complete sense of freedom.
  • to achieve great things in life.

Understanding these great ideas about chance, choice, free will, love, fear and the fear of love can motivate us to work to stay consciously in a place of love. Learning how to design our thoughts and lives to keep us in this place is important for anyone who wants to live a life of meaning and fulfillment.

Reason does not contrast love and the fear of love at odds with each other—and neither does the dictionary.

The fear itself isn’t a sign of negativity or weakness but a sign of how much we care. In a way, fear can deepen joy, passion, and love, if we learn how to find the courage to act despite it.

Rather, when people think of the opposite of love, they are probably thinking of dislike, disgust, or perhaps the most common of all, hate. And when they think the opposite of fear, they think of courage, bravery, or fearlessness.

Keeping these big ideas in mind, we can start to break down what it looks like to choose either love or fear of love in our daily lives. Here, in this article are some ways love versus fear of love manifests itself in the real world.

Fear of love destroys. Love creates”

When we’re afraid of something, we’re more likely to tear it down or throw it away. Coming from a place of love, however, encourages us to create, build, or add. If your project or your work gets rejected, you might be afraid to try again and nothing will happen as a result. Conversely, if you truly love your work, you’re more likely to make some adjustments and try again until you succeed.

Fear of love tightens. Love releases”

If you’re afraid of losing something, you might tighten your grip on it. If you truly love it, however, you’re willing to let it go if you need to. Parents learn this lesson as their children grow up and prepare to leave home. Tightening your “grip” on your children, out of fear, will be stressful for both the child and you, but releasing them with love will help them feel encouraged and supported, and will bring you more peace as a parent.

Fear of love breeds domination. Love breeds cooperation”

When someone is afraid of losing control, it’s easy for them to become domineering. Love, on the other hand, breeds cooperation. Loving couples are more likely to work together to create a life and a home that both of them are happy with. But if one or both of the parties starts to live in fear, they may start acting dominant as a way of exerting control.

If we do not love ourselves, why anyone else? Rejection of self acts as negative hypnosis: the more negative beliefs, the stronger your self-doubt. Before you can form a close bond with another person, you must first understand the most important that is saving the relationship in your life and most and foremost the relationship with yourself.

Love is dynamic and requires action to thrive. Fear of love hesitates”

Love is dynamic and requires action to thrive. While it is nice to be loved by someone else, each of us can only really feel loving feelings for another person and not that person’s emotions for us. To connect with and sustain these loving feelings within us, we must take loving actions. Otherwise, we may live in a fantasy.

Fear of emotional closeness is characterized by the fact that people need more and more distance as a relationship becomes closer. This situation may sound familiar to you: You want nothing more than a happy partnership. But instead of committing, you hesitate. Fear of being hurt or overwhelmed by your emotions. And instead of looking for a solution, you leave each time, you find it a little harder to relate to another person. And at some point, you doubt that you can accept love and open your heart.

Fear often keeps us from doing things we otherwise really want to do. Love, on the other hand, pushes us toward those goals and encourages us to act to make our dreams a reality. In addition, scientists find evidence that human beings are born with an innate desire to help others.

Deep in our hearts, we humans long for true and unconditional love. At the same time, many people are close to their inner selves. They lock their hearts with heavy locks and do not give others a chance to find the keys to their heart. These people have a hard time accepting the love they want so much. Sometimes they do not even recognize that it is right in front of them, because love is everywhere.

Thoughts like “nobody wants to be with me” are in their minds. And although they do not have this feeling on purpose, of course, it always brings back moments when they could be happy. Self-doubt ultimately leads to stress, because when someone else shows you that he loves you, you wonder if something is wrong. This increases your fear of being hurt, frustrated, or exploited.

Love is positive. It is proactive. It looks at the goal and says, “Yes, we can do that. Let’s get going.” It involves the love of the goal, love of yourself, and love of the steps you’ll need to take to get there. You move toward the goal, ready and willing to face whatever challenges appear along the way.

Fear of love is negative. It is reactive. It looks at the goal and says, “No, we can’t do that. Let’s getaway.” When you’re fearful, you fear that your goal isn’t achievable, that you aren’t capable, or that your plan couldn’t possibly get you to where you want to go. So, instead of moving toward the goal, you move away from it. So you finally convince yourself that the goal isn’t worth the effort.

The Significance of Love in Reality Creation

Reality is a state of consciousness of having substance and experiencing existence by combining and equating the following fundamental principles:

  • Duality Principle through critical thinking (know or sense divine Kallos as beauty or excellence that is an idealistic, notional idea (as affection) and fear of love (as intimacy) are combined to form a single unit of love expressed as chances for something to occur or possibilities and experienced as chances of experiencing success or probabilities, with the
  • Equivalence Principle through analytical thinking (splitting love as a single unit, into parts as chances of success; divide and share resources – individuals or groups of people as provable solutions or root causes – by turning possibilities to uncertainties and then to abilities or core competencies) and the
  • Equality Principle (splitting love as a single unit, into parts as choices towards success) through synthetic thinking – subjective-objective and reasonable justification. Equality means each individual or group of people is given the same opportunities by turning probabilities into certainties and then response-to-abilities or responsibilities that lead to actual results as effects.
  • The equity Principle striving for inner peace and balance (that reflects the basic principle of the golden mean) recognizes that each individual or group has different circumstances and allocates the exact resources and opportunities needed to reach an equal outcome where always by default cause equates with effect by balancing presented chances to choices through free will. According to the equity principle, the effect justifies the cause for something to occur (Choice as an Effect, To exist = Chance as a Cause, To be). In this way, uncertainties as core competencies through action forces lead to substance, and certainties as responsibilities through reaction forces turn to actualities, leading to existence or occurrence.
  • The causality principle states that all real events as effects or actual results necessarily have a cause where both form the actual solutions to a problem, uncertainty, or risk through free will [Chance as a Cause or Purpose (to be) = Choice as an Effect or Meaning (to exist) = Actual Solution (both Chance as Meant to be which defines Fate as Purpose and Choice as Meant to exist which determines Destiny as Meaning)]. In this way, actualities are perceived as having substance, and occurrences as experiencing existence or living experiences.
  • The synchronicity principle reflects the mechanism for maintaining inner peace as the balance attained between two extremes (mentioned above as the golden mean) by accepting love and offering help – instead of giving love and receiving help (supply-demand equilibrium, love-in-love equilibrium).

Inner peace or the equilibrium point of self-actualization – self-imagination as a response-ability reflects the basic principle of the golden mean(laid down by Aristotle) that focuses on moderation by striving for balance throughout the desirable middle ground between two extremes – by accepting love and offering help – one of excess and one of deficiency, as both chances of success and choices towards experiencing success, by exercising the sacred right of free will.

The Mechanism

Critical way of thinking or critical thinking is the intellectually disciplined process of actively and skillfully conceptualizing as a guide to a possible action toward the best solutions to a problem (by understanding the circumstances that a thinker is aware of) through the logical connection between a concept and an idea (that is the identification of the problem and nature of a problem itself).

Analytical way of thinking or analytical thinking is the intellectual ability to extract and process key information from data, verify the causes and develop workable solutions (provable solutions) for the problem identified,

A synthetic way of thinking or Synthetic thinking is the combination of the parts taken from analytical thinking (provable solutions) into a complex whole as results; assessment of the effects (actual results).

The difference between the analytical and synthetic ways of thinking is that analytical thinking is the abstract separation of a whole into its constituent parts to study their relations while synthetic thinking takes the parts and combines them into a whole again through subjective-objective and reasonable justification.

The Equivalence Principle equates Inertial mass as a qualitative measure (a condition) to Gravitational mass as a quantitative measure (a property, quality, or characteristic) that is to turn or equate an emotion to a feeling such as fear of love to love.

Inertial mass is the mass of a body as determined by the second law of motion from the acceleration of the body when it is subjected to a force that is not due to gravity.

Gravitational is the mass of a body determined by its response to the force of gravity and is measured by comparing the force of gravity of an unknown mass to the force of gravity of a known mass. Inertial mass is found by applying a known force to an unknown mass, measuring the acceleration, and applying Newton’s Second Law, a = F/m.

  • Weight is different from mass. Weight (W) is the force of gravity exerted on an object.
  • Mass is a measure of the inertia of the object (i.e. how much it resists changes in velocity).
  • Velocity is the speed at which something moves in one direction.
Love Velocity as an Action
Love Velocity as an Action

The higher the value of gravitational force the higher the weight and speed/velocity; they are directly proportional to each other. A change in velocity is a change in energy and a weight change.

The Equality Principle requires that equal situations are treated equally and unequal situations differently. Equality means each individual or group of people is given the same opportunities. Failure to do so will amount to discrimination unless a subjective or objective and reasonable justification exists.

Duality Principle: turns an Undefined problem to solve to Identifiable problem (Reality Reflection)

Equivalence Principle: definition of the nature turns an Identifiable problem to an Identified one and choose provable solution to solve it (Reality Perception)

Equality Principle: Identified problem through provable solution turns to a Defined actual result through reasonable justification (Reality Formation)

Equity Principle: actual solution finally not only treats equally provable solution with actual result but also balances them gaining timing and momentum that give rise to the actual solution of the problem at hand where the effect justifies the cause (Effect = Cause); (Reality Expression)

Causality Principle: equates provable solution to Identified problem as a cause by turning occurences to coincidences and the actual solution to a Defined problem as an effect by turning coincidences to meaninful or experiences (Cause = Effect = Actual Solution); (Reality Creation)

Synchronicity Principle: subjective experiences (as an uknown non-concious connection) that turn occurences as chance events to coincidences and then to meaningful experiences towards inner peace and balance, maintained by giving and receiving love and help (accepting love as life purpose and offering help as meaning or living experience); (Reality Manifestation)

Duality Principle (Spiritual – Emotional Love Equilibrium through critical thinking): [Inertial mass * Love (Acceleration as an Action Force)] = [Gravitational mass * Fear of Love (Intensity of the Gravitational Field as a Reaction Force)]

Equivalence Principle (Psychological – Physical Love Equilibrium through analytical thinking): [(Inertial mass * Love  Ability  Virtue  Purpose)] and [(Gravitational mass * Fear of love  Response-to-ability  Moral  Meaning)]

Equality Principle (Spiritual – Mental Love Equilibrium treated equally through synthetic thinking – subjective-objective and reasonable justification): [(Inertial mass * Love  Ability  Virtue  Purpose) = Cause as a Principle (make something happen) = Space] and [(Gravitational mass * Fear of Love Response-to-ability  Moral  Meaning) = Effect as a Consequence or Result = Time]

Equity Principle (Psychological – Mental Love Equilibrium balanced equally) indicates that Love Velocity as Supply, Purpose or Timing (a point of a period when something may happen as chance, judgement or control) is also balanced against Demand, Meaning or Momentum (a time period when something happens as choice – the quantity of motion of a moving body, measured by its mass and velocity). Timing = Supply = Space = Cause and Momentum = Demand = Time = Effect.

Causality Principle (Physical – Psychological Love Equilibrium); The logical relationship between two events the Cause (Inertial mass) and the Effect (Gravitational mass) through the Causal Relationship Cycle due to the Principle of Reasonance (Resonant frequency); As all falling bodies have the same constant acceleration the two types of mass must be equal to a third force or Reasonant frequency as an Actual Solution; (Inertial mass = Reasonant frequency and Gravitational mass = Reasonant frequency) or (Inertial mass – as Timing, Supply, Space or Cause = Gravitational mass – as Demand, Time or Effect = Resonant frequency)

Synchronicity Principle: subjective meaningful experiences (as an uknown non-concious connection) sensed as the Natural frequency of a body determined by its responce to the force of Gravity compare to Inertia mass – that forms the Actual solution.

The actual steps:

  • Duality Principle: Combining two competitive or opposing forces or elements; Love as Chance and Fear of love as Choice; Inertial mass and Gravitational mass; Velocity and Weight.
  • Equivalence Principle: Turns and equates the two opposing forces into the opposite or antagonistic forces of Chances (chances of success), by equating elements of Chances (as possibilities, uncertainties, and abilities or core competencies) of being equal in value, worth, or function (as chances of success, purpose or virtues). Love velocity as a provable solution to an undefined problem, as an action towards inertial mass, a concept or a feeling turns into a purpose as a virtue and then to a cause (a defined root cause of the problem), and then to space.
  • Equality Principle: Turns and equates the two opposing forces into the opposite or antagonistic forces of Choices (chances of experiencing success), by equating elements of Choices (as probabilities, certainties, and responsibilities) of being equal in status, rights, and opportunities (as chances of experiencing success, meaning or morals). possibilities, uncertainties, and abilities or core competencies) of being equal in value, worth, or function (as chances of success, purpose, or virtues). Finally, the fear of love as a reaction, an idea, a resistance to the applied force of the speed of love, a resistance to the actual solution as an indefinable problem, a gravitational mass, or emotion turns into meaning as a moral, and then to effect (a definite result as the actual impact of the root cause of the problem), and then to time.
  • Equity Principle: According to the Equality Principle Purpose as Virtues and Meaning as Morals are not only treated equally (as equal Action-Reaction forces or inputsbut are also balanced (a state of equilibrium) gaining momentum or timing after an internal transformation process through the causal effect relationship (single events or a sequence of related circumstances that give rise to the actual solution to the initial problem at hand); According to the equity principle finally Love Velocity (as distance divided by the time taken) equates with Time. Love Velocity as Supply, Timing, or Purpose (a point of a period when something may happen as a chance, judgment, or control) is balanced against Fear of Love as a Demand, Momentum, or Meaning (the time period that something happens as a choice – the quantity of motion of a moving body, measured by its mass and velocity). Timing (Purpose as Virtues or Supply or Cause or Space) is balanced against Momentum (Meaning as Morals or Effects or Demand or Time),(Effect = Cause).
  • Causality Principle: States that all real events necessarily have a cause. Cause = Effect. Finally love as a cause and fear of love as an effect become the weight of a moving body drawn together to the appropriate circumstances forming the actual solution either as a single event (conceived by consciousness as life, purpose, or fate) or as an ongoing process, a sequence of circumstances or events (conceived by consciousness as a living experience, a coherent reality, meaning or destiny) where always by default for something to come into reality, cause equates with effect.
  • Synchronicity Principle: a phenomenon where the human mind interprets chances as coincidences that turn to meaningful coincidences as experiences. At the end of the process, an initial risk, uncertainty, or problem through Love Velocity turns to Purpose, to Cause, to Space, and then to Timing, and Fear of love as resistance (weight) turns to Meaning, to Effect (an event as an actual solution to the initial problem or risk), to Momentum through Space-Time or the Present moment. Timing as a coincidence, an event, life, space, or fate = Momentum as a sequence of meaningful coincidences, events, living experiences, time, or destiny = the Present moment as space-time or an actual solution (Cause = Effect = Actual Solution or Space = Time = Space-Time).

The actual variables:

  • Inertial mass (Qualitative measure) = Gravitational mass (Quantitative measure)
  • Inertia = property of matter (attribute, quality, or characteristic)
  • Gravity: The force that attracts a body towards the center of the earth or any other physical matter having mass.
  • Mass: The Measure of inertia or gravity is a fundamental property of all matter; it is in effect the resistance that a body of matter offers to a change in its speed or position upon the application of a force (the more significant the mass of a body the smaller the change produced by an applied force).
  • Velocity is the speed at which something moves in one direction and it’s defined as the distance traveled divided by the time taken; it is represented as m/s or cm/s.
  • Weight is dependent on gravitational force.

The Significance of In-Love in Reality Creation

In love is another element or step on the ladder of love that is the connecting link that connects all the main parts or states of the mind as it combines different qualities such as:

  • A desire as a feeling (having substance as a strong drive, force, or cause) is another element or step on the ladder of love based on intellectual intelligence (IQ) which is a human mental activity and understanding developed through thinking, experiences, and senses (by the conscious mind).
  • An emotion (experiencing existence as strong resistance to falling – in love as an effect) is the main element on the ladder of fear of love based on emotional intelligence (EQ) which is the ability to understand, manage and regulate own emotions, reduce stress, defuse conflict, and reduce emotional reactivity through abstract reasoning (by the conscious-unconscious mind).
  • A distinct state of mind; psychological tendency; intuitive psychological choice; in the cause of freedom based on analytical intelligence (AQ) by comparing and contrasting ideas towards long-term provable solutions to problems by the preconscious mind.
  • An actual result; in effect; is valid from that moment based on synthetic intelligence (SQ) that is future-oriented, holistic, and synthesis of provable solutions (causes) with actual results (effects) by the subconscious mind.
  • A passion that is the essence of the beauty of love through non-conscious intelligence (NQ) with processes in which people are not consciously aware; systems indistinguishable in function; non-conscious reasoning (by the nonconscious mind).
  • Sensing or seeing (experiencing) the essence of the beauty of love (spiritual love); love – in love equilibrium by giving and receiving love through causal intelligence (CQ) by determining relationships more accurately by understanding how one variable impacts another and how certain outputs (actual results) have changed by identifying current and future trends (as actual solutions); blissful love sensed at the center of the heart.

The Levels of Love Equilibrium

The mystery behind the spiritual world is difficult to comprehend when we use worldly wisdom. However, we can see that spirit has a plan to save us from any situation that we may find ourselves in through serial love levels in steps, or stages towards spiritual-mental love of the higher self as a superior spiritual goal where true love (foresight) is perfectly aligned with self-love (insight):

  • Spiritual – Emotional Love Equilibrium level or Self-conceptualization – Self-reflection equilibrium point 1 (based on the Duality Principle)
  • Psychological – Physical Love Equilibrium level or Self-satisfaction – Self-fulfillment equilibrium point 2 (based on the Equivalence Principle)
  • Spiritual – Mental Love Equilibrium level or Self-actualization – Self-imagination equilibrium point 3 (based on the Equality Principle)
  • Spiritual – Psychological Love Equilibrium level (based on the Equity Principle)
  • Spiritual – Physical Love Equilibrium level (based on the Causality, Resonance, and Synchronicity Principles)

The Duality Principle:

Combining Chances and Choices as Forces of Possibilities and Probabilities

The Duality principle: A state of combining two opposing or competing forces; Unknown as chances for divine intervention to solve a problem as divine or spiritual love (Bid to know spiritual love) – Unknowns as chances of successful divine intervention (as choices) experienced as a fear of love (ask to successfully experience divine help) through the conscious-unconscious mind. It represents things that we are neither aware of nor understand and combines them into a whole as a single unit.

A conscious mind involves all of the things that you are currently both aware or unaware of and thinking about; short-term memory that is limited in terms of capacity; done or acting with critical awareness. It represents the Unknown as possibilities = chances of divine intervention to solve a problem (bid to know divine love or the ability for something to occur through a spontaneous response to the problem at hand – a logical assumption).

The unconscious mind consists of the processes in the mind which occur automatically and are not available for introspection; not awake or aware of and responding to one’s environment; it affects feelings and emotions. It represents the Unknowns as probabilities = chances of successful divine intervention to solve a problem (ask for divine help or to experience a successful divine help or something is both possible and likely to occur – an emotional prediction).

The Equivalence Principle:

Splitting (by force) the Combined forces into Antagonistic or Opposite forces of Uncertainties

The Equivalence principle: A state of equating (dividing) two pairs of interacting, opposite, and equal forces (by a forced mental split) such as chances to uncertainties (50% Unknown as abilities for something to occur) through the analytical way of thinking of the preconscious-subconscious mind. Things that we understand but are not aware of that turn into things that we were aware of but do not understand.

The Preconscious mind controls the information that is allowed to enter into conscious awareness; done or acting with analytical awareness. It represents the Unknown as abilities = 50% chances of occurrence of divine intervention, or help to solve a problem.

The Equality principle:

Splitting (by force) the Combined forces into Antagonistic or Opposite forces of Certainties

The Equality principle: Treats equally the information that enters through the preconscious mind with the subconscious thoughts (Known-Knowns as things we’re aware of and understand) through the interference of the conscious-nonconscious mind by subjective-objective problem data analysis and reasonable justification through the synthetic way of thinking.

The subconscious mind responds to information that enters into conscious awareness through the preconscious mind through a subjective problem and data analysis and reasonable justification; they are mental activities just below the threshold of consciousness; subconscious thoughts affect psychological responses and behavior.

A state of equating choices to certainties (50% Knowns for something both possible and likely to occur) through the analytical way of thinking of the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind represents the Knowns as response-to-abilities or actualities (meaningful coincidences or experiences as chances of successful divine intervention, or help).

Balancing the Opposite forces of Uncertainties-Certainties as Values and Morals

The Equity Principle: Recognizes that each person has different circumstances and allocates the exact resources and opportunities needed to reach an equal outcome. Equality of opportunity to achieve one’s potential, an equal share of benefits, empowerment to enable access to information, fair representation, and meaningful participation in decision-making through the exercise of Action-Reaction forces through Choice and Free will.

Known as certainties turn to values = 50% chances of the purposeful occurrence of divine intervention or help, and Knowns as actualities turn to morals = 50% chances of successful or meaningful divine intervention or help (experiences as meaningful coincidences). Supply as Values (Purpose) = Demand as Morals (Meaning).

The Causality principle:

Achieving a balance of the Opposite forces of Values and Morals as Causes and Effects

The Causality principle:  A genetic connection of phenomena through which one thing (the cause) under certain conditions gives rise to something else (the effect). The principle indicates the existence of a logical relationship between two events (relates a simple coincidence to a meaningful coincidence or experience), the root cause, and the effect (the actual result) where the cause always precedes the effect and they both finally form the actual solution due to the resonance principle.

The Synchronicity Principle:

Maintaining the balance achieved through Nonconscious processes

The Synchronicity Principle: Subjective experiences (as nonconscious mental processes) that coincidences between events may be causally unrelated to each other yet have some other unknown connection. It supports the mechanism behind the constant adjustment of the alignment of the above levels or stages that is Love – In Love Equilibrium point (as a balancing factor towards the Blissful Love Equilibrium point) by giving and receiving love.

The Nonconscious mind reflects any mental processes that go on that an individual is unaware of; they are not thought about consciously. Nonconscious processes are not unconscious processes.

The difference between the unconscious and nonconscious mind is that the unconscious is a part of the mind that is not accessible to the conscious mind; it lies outside of conscious awareness but affects feelings and emotions. However, individuals are mostly unaware of the plethora of nonconscious thought processes that are going on at any moment.

Definition of Spiritual-Emotional Love Equilibrium

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© – Spiritual Emotional Love Equilibrium Chart

Spiritual-Emotional Love Equilibrium is a state of adjustment between opposing or divergent influences or elements such as strong feelings of love and intense emotions of fear that are either static (as in a mind acted on by forces whose resultant is zero – by being in a state from selfish to selfless or true love and from fearful to fearless or self-love ) or dynamic as action-reaction forces (as in a reversible chemical reaction when the rates of reaction in both directions are equal).

Spiritual-Emotional Love Equilibrium is a state of intellectual or emotional balance due to the equal action of opposing pairs of forces such as spiritual or intellectual-emotional, and psychological-physicalThe sum of life-preserving instincts that are manifested as impulses to gratify basic needs, sublimated impulses, and impulses to protect and preserve the body and mind — compare death instinct.

To grow spiritually, you must have equilibrium within. Spirit leads to your spiritual body and then to the emotional body through the soul.  Your soul finally leads to your psychological and then to the physical body. In this alignment, you operate in peace through spiritual and emotional love, psychological attraction, physical affection, and mental love as a pure child of bliss.

Similarly, when your soul overrides your spirit, spiritual-emotional equilibrium is disturbed within.  The soul becomes defensive, carnal, and controlling, and our pursuit of bliss is hindered.

The spirit is mind-driven and the soul is emotion-driven and even psychology and flesh-driven. When our soul is mainly carnally led, our spirit, misses its meaning and purpose in life, because our spirit is always pointed toward and exists exclusively for the divine love or love of mankind, whereas our soul can be mostly self-centered. The joy, comfort, and peace of bliss’s presence can only be experienced through our spirit. However, unredeemed, the soul can become a prison that holds back our maturity and spiritual growth.

The good news is, that we can each bring our souls to a place of rest. The spiritual-Emotional Equilibrium of spirit and soul comes when your soul is at rest and your spirit, which communicates with the soul, leads you forward towards the equilibrium point where Love-In-Love curves intersect.

Definition of Love – In-Love Equilibrium

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© – Love-in-Love Equilibrium Chart

The whole world is confused for a surprisingly modest-sounding reason: we don’t understand love, yet we are rather convinced that we do.

We write and talk a lot about love of course, but generally, we do not understand the deeper meanings of its existence in our life.

The whole universe is made up of energy and at that level, everything is vibrating or oscillating at a specific frequency the Resonant Frequency. What does the universe vibrate at? Listening to a sound at 432 Hz is especially pleasing to the ear, and is said to reduce stress and promote emotional stability by putting you in sync with the “heartbeat of the Earth”.

The whole Creation constitutes the center of devoted love, where men and women are created physically, spiritually, psychologically, and emotionally to live together in blissful love.

The love between a husband and a wife must be, among other things, a love affair. However, a marriage based solely on erotic love will fail. The emotion of sexual love diminishes and diminishes. Healthy marriages will have a mix of Agape, Storge, Eros, Philia (Touch), Platonic love (Pure Love), and Anidiotelis Agape (True or Selfless love).

A Gradual Shift From Desire and Empathy to Compassion and Care

The Law of Reverse Effect is to state: “The greater the conscious effort, the less the subconscious response” that is the harder one consciously tries to do something, the more difficult it is to succeed; or “Whenever the will (conscious mind) and imagination (unconscious mind) conflict, the imagination (unconscious mind) always wins.

The law of reverse effect creates resistance to get us moving. So how could we overcome these things? First, it might be your desire. Desire is strong energy and can cut through resistance like a sharp knife.

What is the true meaning of desire? Desire means to have a longing for. Some common synonyms of desire are coveted, crave, want, and wish. It stresses the strength of feeling and often implies a strong intention or aim. An expressed wish; Something desired; A desire to start a new life.

Empathy is our feeling of awareness toward other people’s emotions and an attempt to understand how they feel.

Studies suggest that empathy while well-intentioned isn’t neutral. It’s even suggested that it can sometimes hurt more than help our relationships and our ability to lead effectively.

Empathy can make us unconsciously more sympathetic towards individuals we relate to more. This makes us less likely to connect with people whose experiences don’t mirror ours.

The answer to the inadequacy of desire and empathy is motivation. Motivation is everything in life!

As we see it, at the dawn of a new era, there are two main emerging spiritual-emotional forces or factors behind any individual’s endeavor in society as a whole to create and sustain motivation: Compassion and Care.

Compassion is an emotional response to empathy or sympathy and creates a desire to help.

“Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle.”

  • Compassion (a motivating factor or positive affective stimulus based on psychological love) is an innate core ability for achieving someone’s goals by loving, helping, or supporting others that encourages someone to act towards the accomplishment of an aim or purpose and
  • Fear of abandonment or rejection (a negative affective stimulus based on the impact of the fear of love) is a response to the above ability by the fear of acting in an uncompassionate way by making sacrifices in return for the benefit offered that triggers emotional reactions of discouraging an individual from acting”.

What Are The Types or Stages of Love?

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© – Types or Stages of Love; Blissful Love Equilibrium Chart
© - Ladder of Stages of Love and Fear
© – Ladder of Stages of Love and Fear

6 Types or Stages of Love – Ladder of Love

The word “love” is a flexible term in the English language. It has several different meanings. Six unique words in ancient Greek describe the range of meaning the English word love conveys.

The following ladder of love consists of Six Types or Stages of Spiritual-Emotional-Psychological-Physical and Spiritual-Mental Love that are defined as:

I. Agape: love of mankind, divine, spiritual love.
II. Storge: love of parents for children.
III. Eros: erotic, passionate love.
IV. Philia: love of friends and equals.
V. Platonic Eros or Agape: in touch, mental love; establish a rapport or relationship.
VI. Anidiotelis Agape: True or Selfless Love: perfect romantic love between people with an aligned belief system and common interests based on the equilibrium of strong spiritual desires and deep emotional needs.
© – Ladder of Love

In Plato’s dialogue, The Symposium, the playwright Aristophanes suggests that the origin of love lies in the desire to complete ourselves by finding a long-lost “other half”.

Surprisingly he was right. Love in the ladder moves upward. In addition, even though all stages there exist to some degree, Eros is the nowadays dominant type or stage behind any human endeavor (it is important to state here that the ladder of love and fear in this article is differentiated from the original and reflects the personal views of the writer).

Being in love (Eros) with someone is psychologically charged in a way that relates to the human mind and feelings. Specifically, when you’re in love with someone, you feel a strong, almost inexplicable desire for that person. To love someone is to have a strong feeling of closeness and care for someone.

Eros is about asking for love (demanding love) and involves a loss of control with intense anticipation and nervousness while loving someone is about offering love (supplying love) where you feel happy, secure, and at ease with your partner.

Over or excess demands for love create fear, worry, and anxiety with reverse effects on humanity’s mental and physical health in general. As a result, balance is lost and society struggles to find purpose and meaning in life.

However, a new strong potential emerges gradually over time. A potential shift from stage three to stage two. From Eros to Storge which takes a new meaning as part of another way or an upgraded path to the essence of love; blissful love.

But it does not happen easily and with no cost. The higher the steps, the more intellectual it is. To be able to climb the ladder, one must understand the previous steps thoroughly. It is designed to happen through stages, struggles, and lessons. Rewards are bigger though.

Agape as spiritual love lays at the top of the ladder as the beacon of the spiritual road to blissful love as the ultimate prize; the ultimate step for someone to conquer the knowledge of both the spiritual and emotional aspects of love; real and true love in unity; the uniqueness of love. The fulfillment of the desire to complete ourselves by finally finding the long-lost “other half”.

Anidiotelis Agape, Unconditional Love, Undistracted Love, and Philautia (Self-love) lay at the roots of the ladder of love. Every other form or stage of love is built upon these core foundational archetypes of love.

History and Origin

  • Agape: (Divine or Spiritual love borrowed from Greek agape – agan=much and pa=protection); is defined as self-sacrificing human or personal love often conditional, or limited in nature. It is the love that focuses on the will, not the emotions, experiences, or libido based on aspects and conditions of possessive, demand, or expectation; Devine or infinite spiritual love.
  • Storge: (Emotional love) Storge refers to natural, family love. Storge refers to the kind of love a parent shows for a child.
  • Eros: (Psychological love) Eros is the word often used to express the sexual love or arousal feelings shared by people who are physically attracted to each other; Definition of Eros: In Greek mythologyErosAncient Greek: Ἔρως, ‘Desire’ is the Greek god of love, sexual desire, and physical love. The Romans called him Cupid, and he was thought to be the son of Aphrodite and Ares. He was one of the Erotes, a group of winged love gods.
  • Philia: (Physical love) Philia refers to brotherly love and is most often exhibited in a close friendship.
  • Platonic Eros or Mental Love: (Pure love) In TouchEstablish communication with someone. Involves deep affection, but no romantic or sexual attraction.
  • Anidiotelis Agape or True Love (Selfless love):  True love means that you have an unwavering, unbreakable, and unparalleled fondness and devotion for another; is also defined by an immeasurably deep spiritual-emotional unity of spirit and soul into the wholeness of the higher self through self-love in a happy, passionate, and fulfilling relationship.

I. Agape – Spiritual Love

Definition of Love, Selfish, Selfless, or True Love

Agape constitutes the ultimate spiritual goal and the end of human existence as a biological entity by finally finding the long-lost “other half” and turning into wholeness!

According to Aristophanes in Plato’s dialogue, The Symposium, at the beginning of time, all people were hermaphrodites with double backs and sides, four arms and four legs, and two faces turned in opposite directions on the same head. Zeus had to cut them in two, male and female – and from that day on, each of us longed to be reunited in the place from which he was cut off.

What does selfishness in love mean? Selfish Love is focused on getting what one can gain from their partner and the relationship. Selfless or True Love is about sacrificing everything for another and accepting the other without judgment. True love is gifted with foresight and knows that love evokes love.

Contrary to what we like to say and believe, the feeling of love doesn’t occur in our hearts, at least scientifically. Instead, it happens in our brain when we release hormones (oxytocin, dopamine, adrenaline, testosterone, estrogen, and vasopressin) that create a mix of feelings: euphoria, pleasure, or bonding. However true, fearless, or selfless love fills and occupies the heart.

We want others to live up to our expectations right now. Excessive wants can limit our happiness. But true love means giving people time to mature and grow, to go wrong, to wander in another direction, and to give them every opportunity to grow, at their own pace.

A genuinely healthy relationship based on pure emotions and feelings is a relationship that is not dominated by the ego by creating an image and searching for itself. In a genuine relationship, there is an outward flow of open, alert attention to the person to whom there is absolutely no compulsion.

II. Storge – Emotional Love

Definition of Fear, Fearful and Fearless or Self-Love

Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others; the capacity to gain an accurate and deep understanding of yourself (insight).

Fear is an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger. A state marked by this emotion. Anxious concern: solicitude. A reason for alarmdanger.

Whenever we enter into a love relationship with someone love is based upon our emotions of fears. Love is also defined by fear. It’s the underlying groundwork of any relationship even if it seems shocking and difficult to admit.

Another part of the fear of love is the risk of not responding to that feeling. People fall in love together, gradually, after spending time together. But it does not always work that way. One falls in love with the other, but the other does not reciprocate the feelings. Thus, a person can resist the development of these feelings. Unreciprocated love is tragic and the possibility of a one-way love affair can cause fear and prevent a person from letting those feelings grow at all.

Of course, the scariest thing about love can be its loss. Although this is the most obvious, and perhaps the most common, fear of love, it is also the most self-destructive, because the person ends up avoiding love for fear of losing it.

Remember that fear, when used properly, is a valuable emotion that can alleviate our urges to rush into a new situation if we want it to work for us and not against us. Drawing on Aristotle and the Stoic philosophers, we must recognize that excessive fear will prevent you from trying anything new while very little fear will make you fall in love very easily, a lot, and quickly, resulting in probably more pain in the long run. Ideally, fear should be used in conjunction with logic to decide if that danger is worth it.

Even prudence can go a long way because we do not want to be fooled, but neither should we be careful to the extent that we avoid life. And if, as many believe, love is an essential or an integral part of the meaning of life, and something that makes life and not mere existence, then the wisest thing to do is to overcome your fears, reject your reservations, and pay attention only to love.

We should be almost done with romantic love now. We need to look at the challenge of this kind of love. However, it is not surprising that we are still just at the beginning, just starting on the road to being human.

What’s Philophobia?

Philophobia is a fear of falling in love. It can also be a fear of entering into a relationship or a fear that you will not be able to maintain a relationship. Many people experience a slight fear of falling in love at some point in their lives. But in extreme cases, philophobia can make people feel isolated and unloved.

Philophobia is not a condition that can be diagnosed by a doctor because it is not included in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). However, it can affect someone’s mental health negatively.

Potential Causes of Philophobia

The fear of falling in love has many potential causes, including:

Fear of losing identity

Fear of losing identity due to past experiences. Traumatic relationships of the past can contribute to the development of the fear of falling in love. Infidelity, betrayal, or frustration can make you stay away from romantic relationships. Other types of relationships can also cause fear, such as parental relationships and close friendships.

Fear of losing purpose and meaning

Fear of losing purpose and meaning due to cultural experiences. In some cultures, there is more pressure to marry at a young age under certain conditions. If one does not want to have this traditional experience, it can lead to philophobia.

Fear of abandonment or rejection

Fear of abandonment or rejection. Putting yourself out there can be scary. Studies show that rejection can have similar effects on the body as physical pain. Most people can overcome rejection, but if you have experienced enough painful rejections, the fear of another may stay with you.

III. Eros – Psychological or Unconditional Love

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Eros – Love Significance

Unconditional love is to love others and ourselves much more authentically and generouslyis an active choice to continue loving with no expectations or rewards. It serves a higher purpose (purposeful). Loving someone unconditionally may produce positive feelings. However, humanity has long been fascinated by the conflict between our noblest ideals and the most urgent and exciting demands of our sexual nature.

Sexual excitement is psychological. It’s not so much what our bodies happen to be doing that turns us on. It’s what’s happening in our brains. Acceptance is at the center of collective experiences and feels physical – the blood pumps faster, the metabolism shifts gear and the skin gets hot – but behind all this lies a sense of an end to our isolation.

We can only start to understand the role of sexuality in love if we can accept that it is not necessarily a uniquely pleasant experience in and of itself. Nevertheless, sex with our lover can be one of the nicest things we ever do.

The reason is that sex delivers a major psychological thrill. The pleasure we experience has its origin in an idea: that of being allowed to do a very private thing to and with another person. The mutual permission involved in sex is dramatic and large. We’re implicitly saying to another person that we have granted them an extraordinary privilege.


The person who loves us sexually does something properly redemptive. They stop making a distinction between the different sides of who we are. They can see that we are the same person all the time. That our gentleness or dignity in some situations isn’t fake. Through sexual love, we have the chance to solve one of the deepest, problems of human nature which is how to be accepted for who we are.

In general, at least western culture requires us to present rigorously crafted versions of ourselves to others. It asks us to be cleaner, purer, and more polite versions of what we might otherwise be. Demand has quite high internal costs. Important aspects of our character are pushed into the shadows.


At times it may feel frustrating, but it’s pretty empowering to accept the fact that the only person we have any true control over in a relationship is ourselves. Therefore, we can choose whether to engage in behaviors that are destructive to intimacy or authenticity to take actions that express feelings of love, compassion, affection, respect, and kindness.

To forgive is to know that we are, in our way, as guilty as others. But that is no reason forever to withhold love. We learn to forgive when we’re brave enough to explore the darker sides of our hearts.


Some people believe that they do not deserve to be desired by someone else. And even though they are attracted to someone and the feeling is mutual, they can not let themselves express themselves. The reasons why people have such sad thoughts can be many. It is not uncommon to have a false self-image or low self-esteem. Sometimes they also had negative experiences with an ex-partner who held them down and made them feel unloved or rejected.


Love means, above anything else, benevolence and gentleness. Love it’s about directing sympathy in a most unexpected direction. To love is to devote an active charity towards the mistakes and aberrations. One day, we will all require the charity of others. In one way or another, we will need people to look past our evident failings.

IV. Philia – Physical or Undistracted Love (not carnal)

Undistracted love means learning to capture the deeper spiritual meaning as a responsible answer (meaningful) by receiving unconditional love as your higher purpose in life. Receiving unconditional love can also make a difference in emotional well-being.


We love people who promise that they will in some way help to make us whole. At the center of our feelings, there is gratitude for having found someone who seems to complement our qualities and dispositions. It is really important to make us feel appreciated and accepted as we are and not to pretend to be what others want us to be.

To love means being loyal to people with steadfastness and an unbudgeable resilient faith. Friendliness is a quality of openness and warmth that makes you feel welcome and at ease.


One way to get a sense of why love should matter so much is to look at the challenges of loneliness. The pains of loneliness are an unembarrassing and universal possibility. We shouldn’t feel lonely. Unwittingly, loneliness gives us the most eloquent insights into why love should matter so much.

In addition, when we are alone, people may well strive to show us care or kindness. There may be invitations and touching gestures, but it will be hard to escape from a background sense of the conditionality of the interest and care on offer.


One of the more surprising and at one level perplexing aspects of love is that we don’t merely wish to admire and respect other people. We are also powerfully drawn to want to attract them (friendly and not sexually). The birth of physical love is normally signaled by what is in reality a hugely weird act; two different people feel mutually attracted just to be friends and nothing more. Communication, mutual respect, and understanding become essential to creating and maintaining this kind of platonic relationship.


Often, even in a platonic type relationship, we love at least in part in the hope of being helped and redeemed by others becoming through their help better versions of ourselves. Love contains just below the surface a hope for personal redemption: a solution to certain blocks and confusion. We shouldn’t expect to get there all by ourselves. Love promises to educate us in a very different way. Through other people, our development can start in a far more welcoming and energizing way with deep excitement and desire.

V. In Touch – Platonic or Pure Love (no Romantic or Sexual Attraction)

Platonic love is a type of love that is not sexual or romantic. The idea of platonic love has its roots in ancient Greek philosophy. The word “platonic” comes from the famous philosopher, writer, and speaker Plato, who outlined specific categories of love in his famous work “Symposium.” Though the philosopher never used the term himself.

Platonic love happens when two people have a special bond where they deeply care for and respect each other, and share similar interests and values, but they don’t pursue things romantically.

There will be a deep, often unconditional, pure love. Platonic love is what we feel when there is trust, safety, and validation in a close relationship. It’s the sense of feeling good and cared for in a relationship.

Plato believed that love is the motivation that leads one to try to know and contemplate beauty in itself through a gradual process that begins with an appreciation of the appearance of physical beauty and then moves on to an appreciation of spiritual beauty.

Platonic Love; Spiritual – Mental Love Equilibrium

For Plato, love is not in itself an end, but only a means to achieve the supreme concept of beauty. The first step is physical; the senses unleash eros (the love that enters through the senses and compels one to approach someone). In this stage, love is still physical.

Plato does not reject the physical dimension of love, to reach the supreme concept of beauty which is actually to reach a state of perfect happiness, oblivious of everything else just because it apprehends the form of beauty, in a kind of vision that raises happiness.

The deeper meaning of platonic love: “is the spiritual love that enters through the eyes and compels one to approach someone (or something) as a ladder in which love climbs up a series of steps to reach the peak of a supreme idea (spiritual-mental equilibrium) that is a passionate, pure, and disinterested knowledge of the essence of the beauty of love”.

Characteristics of platonic relationships include:

  • Respect
  • Love
  • Admiration 
  • Loyalty
  • Honesty
  • Bonding over shared interests and beliefs

VI. Anidiotelis Agape – True or Selfless love

Anidiotelis Agape (true or selfless love) is at the root of the ladder and constitutes the essence of love.  Love for love itself; An individual sees the beauty in its form and loves the beauty of love as it is. Every particular beautiful thing is beautiful because of its connection to this form.

Agape is the supreme concept of beauty

Agape (spiritual love) is at the top of the love ladder mentioned above as the supreme concept of beauty that also describes the concept of the essence of the state of Bliss Equilibrium in the best possible way.

This is a delicate state of spirit and soul unifying through the heart, throughout the various stages of love, towards the ultimate goal of Bliss Equilibrium; a constant search for the knowledge on how to learn to gradually appreciate the essence and the glory of the nature of higher-self through self-love (philautia – Greek word that means: to make friends with yourself – raising self-esteem) and its ultimate unity with spirit and the whole creation through true love (into wholeness).

Blissful love equilibrium

© – Inner Peace – Blissful Love Equilibrium


© – Inner Peace – Blissful Love Equilibrium

Blissful love equilibrium is where the spirit through the heart identifies and appreciates its spiritual-emotional-psychological and physical unity with the soul into wholeness through Self-awareness (the ultimate common space of Self-reflection, Self-inspection, Self-introspection, and Self-recognition).

  • Self-awareness: is the experience of one’s personality or individuality; is how an individual consciously knows and understands their character, behavior, feelings, motives, desires, and needs.
  • Self-reflection: refers to giving thought to one’s character and behavior; a reflective looking inward: is an examination of one’s thoughts and feelings.
  • Self-inspection: is the process that relies on the observation of one’s mental state; is the experience of one’s personality or character and motives.
  • Self-introspection: the ability to witness and evaluate our own cognitive, emotional, and behavioral processes.
  • Self-recognition: knowledge and understanding of one’s nature or character; insight into one’s personality.

Mind – Soul – Spirit – Body connection through the heart; the heart is the intersection point of spiritual-emotional, psychological-physical, and spiritual-mental axes.

The steps toward blissful love equilibrium

  • Spiritual love is offering love to self and others that derive from the spirit and emotional love is accepting love from self and others that comes from the soul; they both meet at the spiritual-emotional love equilibrium point (1).
  • Unconditional and Undistracted love both come from the mind and body; They reflect life’s purpose and meaning aiming at well-being and mental health through the right mentality and the appropriate behavior of an individual: they both meet at the psychological-physical love equilibrium point (2).
  • Blissful love equilibrium comes through the meeting of the equilibrium points (1) and (2) at the spiritual-mental love equilibrium point (3).

The adjustment of their alignment is manifested through the love-in-love equilibrium point by giving and receiving love and is felt right there in the center of the heart where the three love equilibrium points coincide into wholeness as great happiness, joy, contentment, fulfillment, and bliss.

A great shift in consciousness – Happiness vs. Fulfillment

Aristotle said, “Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim, and end of human existence.”

What is the real meaning of happiness? Happiness is an emotional state characterized by feelings of joy, and satisfaction. While happiness has many different definitions, it is often described as involving positive emotions and life satisfaction. Real happiness comes from within; inner peace greatly comes from having love and compassion in life.

To distinguish between these two meanings, we use “utility” as usefulness in love to refer to the greatest good for an individual (from his/her point of view) that receives from consuming a good and “happiness” to refer to the opposite positive feeling of enjoying a good or meaning.

“Benefit” is helpfulness in love besides the physical health benefits, being in love works wonders for mental health as well. Love, marriage, and overall well-being reduce stress, which also strengthens the immune system. It provides purpose, contentment, and fulfillment in life.

However, the spiritual love-in-love equilibrium point toward blissful love equilibrium by giving and receiving love constitutes a great shift in human consciousness into a new paradigm:

From usefulness to helpfulness and then to powerfulness. From purpose and meaning of life to possession of controlling influence among all the loving souls of the society as a whole. A shift from self-esteem to compassion as core abilities and from respect to care as a response to those abilities. An upliftment from love equilibrium to blissful love equilibrium.


How is Spiritual-Emotional Love Equilibrium Sustained?

Maintaining spiritual-emotional love equilibrium

Maintaining spiritual-emotional love equilibrium comes with a deep understanding of the gain and loss that exists from a spiritual point of view. The rules that apply to spiritual gain and loss are hardly the same as those viewed from a carnal perspective. Sustaining spiritual-emotional love equilibrium requires us to understand how the principles of this nature apply to our everyday lives.

Spiritual-emotional love equilibrium allows us to understand spiritual wisdom and love toward us. If reasoned carnally it doesn’t make any logical sense. It is also a means by which we know there is a reward reserved for us despite the long-suffering we may face in life. The following instances described below help us understand in more depth how spiritual-emotional love equilibrium is sustained:

Maintaining spiritual cleanliness

Spiritual cleanliness looks at what is in our hearts and spirits. If we possess a clean heart and a spirit then we are rewarded. Equilibrium is maintained in spiritual cleanliness by the mere fact that we cannot die from the physical. Equilibrium is also maintained here by the fact that our true death is not by the loss of life but by the loss of our soul. Death is not the fear of spiritual cleanliness but a chance for a change in a higher realm of existence.

Seeking righteousness

This means acting in accord with the personal belief systems, values, or morals free from guilt. Seeking “Righteousness” implies trying to reach a state of moral integrity and honesty; it is not self-righteousness, judging oneself by one’s standards.

Looking beneath the surface

To love with imagination is to look beneath the surface and picture the suffering and pain that got you to this place. To love with imagination is to put yourself in the place of others and understand why they are behaving as they do. Imaginative love knows that we are all, somewhere, desperate therefore it seeks out the source of that desperation and treats it with sorrowful gentleness.

Operating with a degree of politeness

We must operate with a degree of politeness too. A radical change of our true selves is the price we must pay for conviviality. We have to accept too that much of who we are won’t readily be understood. Some of our deepest concerns will be met with blank incomprehension, boredom, or fear. Most people won’t care at all and our deeper thoughts will get no interest.

Spotting personal inadequacies

We do not all fall in love with the same people because we are not all missing the same things. The aspects we find desirable in our partners speak of what we admire but do not have secure possession of in ourselves. We may be powerfully drawn to the competent person because we know how our own lives are held up by a lack of confidence and because it suggests the balancing quality to our own excessively compliant view of the world. Our inadequacies explain the direction of our tastes and choices.

Working within yourself

The good news is that yes, you can beat fear. But you have to be willing to work with yourself and remove the blocks in your mind. Most fears are related to negative experiences from your past. If you have frustrations If you have experienced injuries or shocking experiences in previous relationships, you need to deal with them in the first step to experience new love in the second step. To do this, it may sometimes be helpful to have a life coach or psychologist involved.

Learning to love yourself

Realize that you are unique and wonderful – just as you are here, right now. You are perfect this second and no matter what you do, think, or feel, you will always be precious and lovable. In addition, you should avoid dealing with people who tell you otherwise. Anyone who says that you are not worthy of receiving love should no longer be in the close circle of your friends or acquaintances. Because you deserve it!

Living from your heart

Do you live each day as you wish from your heart? Or do invisible forces seem to be preventing you from achieving your goals? And do you often encounter difficulties with your fellow human beings who always show the same patterns?

Learning to love unconditionally

There’s a reason people have been studying human emotion for centuries. However, it can seem like a pretty complicated topic. But if we boil it down to the basics—to love and fear of love—then we realize what living in a state of love can do for our lives, and we can start to unravel the mysteries of human thought and emotion, to create a better life for ourselves.

But, how can we develop the optimism and positivity that love requires?

  • Start with the end in mind. What does a loving version of you look like? Try to ask yourself: What would you do if you were not afraid? Revealing the answer to this question can help you discover strong motivation.
  • Be aware of your fear. What scary thoughts are you having right now? How often do you have them? Are they triggered by something specific? Understanding your fears will only help you as you work to dispel them.
  • Plan your thoughts. Your thoughts have power. Fear of love comes from your thoughts. If you can help yourself think of thoughts that bring you to a state of love, you will find yourself in that place.
  • Use positive affirmations. Positive affirmations are an excellent tool for anyone trying to think more positively about themselves or the world around them. If you want to know more about writing effective positive affirmations for yourself, read this.

In Conclusion

Humanity doesn’t completely understand what love is all about and especially spiritual love because it hasn’t been fully experienced yet; Spiritual love is a divine inheritance, a spiritual gift as a benefita good – the greatest good, through the ladder of love

Loving someone or something (as opposing to the ladder of love that is the ladder of the fear of love is its utility – enjoying the greatest good) is given to humanity for a very special reason; to develop discernment and stamina; to allow humans to get to know reality in all its aspects, such as love, fear, life, living experiences, success, happiness, satisfaction, and contentment, by exercising the sacred right of free will.

Chance and choice interact with each other through free will as they both form the ability to act at one’s discretion; through free will, chances turn to certainties as simple coincidences and choices turn to actualities as meaningful coincidences or experiences due to mental phenomenon based on the equity and synchronicity principles; the more strongly people believe in this phenomenon the higher they rate their ability to make decisions freely; the more satisfied they become with their decisions.

In this case, more and more chances of making the right choices turn to coincidences and then to meaningful coincidences or experiences and they work more like inhered human rightor privileges rather than a leap of faith for someone to feel a complete sense of freedom by constantly striving for inner peace or balance through free will.

After the collective upliftment of human consciousness, chance, choice, and free will become more of an inborn right itself; the power of acting without the constraint of necessity or fate; the right timing to get to know spiritual love and enjoy its greatest good; by becoming spiritually awake; taking charge of destiny; finding the long-lost “other half”, and finally becoming complete at the final step on the top of the ladder of love as the ultimate destination and end cause.

Finally, life as reality is a state of consciousness (intellectual and behavioral characteristics, problem analysis, data analysis, and Judgment) having substance and experiencing existence.

Consciousness is a cognitive or behavioral system that is mainly based on the:

  • duality principle through critical thinking (combining cognitive, and emotional intelligence into a whole – of the opposing forces as chance, and choice),
  • equivalence principle (splitting the combined opposing into the opposite force of ability as equalizing factor) through analytical thinking (analytical intelligence, objective thinking filtering and assessing relevant information and interpreting chances as being equal in value, worth, or function),
  • equality principle through synthetic thinking (splitting the combined opposing into the opposite force of response-to-ability or responsibility as equalizing factor) through synthetic intelligence, subjective-objective, and reasonable justification of equating choices as being equal in status, rights, or opportunities),
  • The equity principle reflects the basic principle of the golden mean striving for inner peace as the balance between two extremes through the Causal Relationship Cycle due to the resonance principle of balancing chances as coincidences having substance (causes) and choices as meaningful coincidences or experiences (effects) through action-reaction forces and free will (nonconscious intelligence)
  • The causality principle states that all real events as effects or actual results necessarily have a cause due to the resonance principle by relating the causally unrelated events (yet have some other unknown connection); through this principle, causes as coincidences turn to events or fate, and experiences as effects turn into a sequel of events or destiny (causal intelligence, Cause = Effect = Actual Solution)
  • The synchronicity principle reflects the mechanism for achieving and maintaining inner peace attained by the causality principle – as the balance between two extremes – by giving and receiving (offering and accepting) love and help (supply-demand equilibrium, love-in-love equilibrium).

Duality means the quality or state of having two different forces or elements of love (through the ladder of love) and loving someone or something (through the ladder of fear of love) to create a spiritual-emotional closeness. That is to motivate people to work to stay consciously in a place of love rather than in a place of fear.

However, fear itself is not a sign of negativity or weakness but a sign of how much someone cares. Scientists find evidence that human beings are born with an innate desire to help others.

Duality is woven into the very fabric of life for a reason: to teach people that every aspect of life is created through a balance interaction of opposing and competing forces or elements of love and fear (of love) and how to elevate the ladder of love as chances in conjunction with the ladder of fear of love as chances of success through choices and the exertion of action-reaction forces and free will.

The duality principle is a state of the combination of two opposing or competing concepts or groups such as feelings and emotions, spirit and soul, spirituality and carnality, self and others, and chances and choices through the critical way of thinking.

According to the duality principle love (bid to know or sense divine Kallos as an inborn right or chance) is an active forcepositive affective stimulus that triggers joy and pleasure as a chance or a cause for changeFear of love (asking for experiencing spiritual love to the maximum degree as a choice through a free will) is a reactive forcenegative affective stimulus that triggers emotions of fear and displeasure to resist or sustain change.

The Equivalence Principle equates an emotion to a feeling as opposite or antagonistic forces through the analytical way of thinking by equating a subjective qualitative measure of love (as a condition) to possibilities, uncertainties, and abilities or core competencies; treats equally love as a virtue, and through purpose (as intention or an actualization force), turns it into a cause (a provable solution).

The Equality Principle treats fear of love as a moral, which through meaning (as something meant as a reaction to an action, or intended), and turns it into an effect (an actual result deriving from a response-to-ability as an equalizing factor) by subjectiveobjective problem and data analysis, and reasonable justification. In this way, a new common equilibrium point is attained.

According to the Equity Principle feelings and emotions are balanced gaining both timing and momentum after an internal transformation process through the causal effect relationship where they finally form the actual solution as a single event deriving from a single meeting point of :

  • the ability to exercise choice through action-reaction forces and free will as a human’s birthright or privilege.
  • to feel free to know divine Kallos and offer love to others (bid to know or sense divine beauty by leveraging love and help) that also means (bid as an attempt to freely know and offer love or help) through self-reflection by being in a state of being free of fear, brave, or fearless (self-reflection curve).
  • to be free to accept love and offer help from/to others (by asking to experience help to its maximum potential) through self-conceptualization by being selfless and concerned more about your own needs [self-conceptualization curve meeting with self-reflection curve at the equilibrium point (1) or to be].
  • fear of love means to feel neither free to know divine Kallos as beauty or excellence by offering love nor to use it to its maximum advantage by accepting help from others by being selfish and fearful at the same time and refers to a mental blockage of the procedure or spiritual-emotional distantness – instead of closeness – through polarization at the edges, leading obviously to paralysis.
  • to qualify to know or sense divine Kallos as beauty or excellence by providing love and help to others (supply or offer love and help as a skill or an effort) through the self-satisfaction curve (dealing with difficult emotions of fear of rejection) and
  • to be response-able to return the love and help as a reward for the love and help you receive from others (demand love or help in return for the love or help provided) through the self-fulfillment curve [dealing with overflowing feelings of love and acceptance meeting with self-satisfaction curve at the equilibrium point (2) or to exist].
  • Inner peace means being in a state of experiencing happiness [(self-satisfaction through self-actualization which is: the complete realization of one’s potential, and self-realization which is: the full development of one’s abilities and appreciation for life) and self-contentment (self-fulfillment through self-imagination which is the imagination of an event from a personal perspective which means destined to happen or to exist or simply destiny) at the same time [supply-demand equilibrium, love-in-love equilibrium, or self-actualization – self-imagination equilibrium point (3) or meant to be (which means self-actualized or self-realized or meant to have substance or simply fate or purpose).
  • This self-actualization – self-imagination equilibrium point (3) or meant to be (fate or purpose) and meant to exist (destiny or meaning), finally coincides with both the self-reflection – self-conceptualization equilibrium point (1) or to be, and the self-satisfaction – self-fulfillment equilibrium point (2) or to exist.

Inner peace means finding your peace of mind by attaining happiness, contentment, and bliss no matter how difficult things get in your life; it reflects the equilibrium point of self-visualization – self conceptualization (action-reaction)self-inspection – self-introspection (ability-responsibility) and self-actualization – self-imagination (cause-effect) by following the basic principle of the golden mean.

According to the equity principle, attaining or achieving inner peace or balance is only possible through the spirit-soul-mind-body connection through the intersection equilibrium point of the spiritual-emotional-mental-physical axes at the center of the heart by balancing chance and choice through action-reaction forces and free will (where – to be – as a cause, timing or space coincides with – to exist – as an effect, momentum or time, with – meant to be – forming an actual solution as space-time or the present moment).

According to the causality principle all real events necessarily have a cause; by perceiving the actual solution either as a single event (conceived by consciousness as life, purpose, or fate) or as an ongoing process, a sequence of circumstances or events (conceived by consciousness as a living experience, a coherent reality, meaning or destiny) where always by default cause equates with effect.

The innate desire to complete ourselves is fulfilled by loving and helping others until finding the long-lost “other half” (as Plato suggests) as a mechanism on the road to blissful love that reflects the supreme concept of beauty as the ultimate prize, that is the ladder of love (in conjunction with the ladder of fear of love) through constant empowerment and upliftment of human consciousness maintained by the synchronicity principle.

The constant adjustment of their alignment through the above mechanism for maintaining inner peace as the balance between two extremes is attained by offering or giving and accepting or receiving love and help (supply-demand equilibrium, love-in-love equilibrium) through the love-in-love equilibrium point of the love-in-love curves as balancing factors.

Real-Life Examples & Remarks

Ps. In order to better comprehend the important concepts of this significant topic here is an example:


Just imagine a sailing boat where love is the wind that blows. Loving someone or something through the fear of love is its sails. The equilibrium point is the imaginary alignment of the angle of the craft, the sails, and the rudder as the touching point with the surface of the water so as to push the sailing boat forward.

Resilience is the character, quality, and endurance of the craft against unexpected weather conditions and the fury of the waves of the sea.
Behavior is the compass that always points toward the blissful equilibrium of love as the port of the ultimate destination.

The skills of the captain in order to keep the craft on the right track are also equally important to the choice of the appropriate path, the experience of the adventure of the trip, and the final destination.

It is easier though for the captain to try paths with calm waters and not to go against the wind.

However, without wind and sails, the craft doesn't move at all. This is the central idea and the significant point that we have to keep in mind:
No love means no wind and no change; no fear means no sailing no 
choice and no movement; that further means no port and no tranquility; no purpose and no meaning of life; a missed opportunity to find the port of the blissful equilibrium of love in this lifetime.

But there is no reason to worry. A missed opportunity is not a lost cause but a chance for spiritual upliftment on the ladder of love until the next momentum for movement arrives.

According to Plato the ultimate destination of humanity is the knowledge of the essence of beauty and not the love itself. That is to apprehend the form of beauty in a kind of vision.

Visualization is a picture of the mind. Conceptualization is the formation of an idea. Imagination is a mental faculty and is beyond conceivable. In this sense, the essence of the beauty of love is to acknowledge that conceptualization, visualization, and imagination all come together in order to become a whole; What we do not conceive with our senses is also another form of reality as long as we can imagine it as an idea in a form that we choose from. 

This is an elevated state of consciousness where we become able to overcome our doubts, worries, and fears and consciously sense the true, the real, and the authentic all at once; that is to finally apprehend the essence of the beauty of love in its all forms at once that's actually the beauty of the knowledge of the essence of love in all its forms. 

The beauty of the knowledge and acceptance of the essence of self and others with no distinction and judgment; by expressing freely our uniqueness, and the authenticity of ourselves, and by accepting with gratitude coincidences (the occurrence of events that seem to have no cause) as synchronicities (the coincidental occurrence of meaningful coincidences or events) in our life by understanding that everything happens for a reason; as omens of always being on the right path by being in sync with the “heartbeat of the Earth”. 

That is actually the whisper of spiritual love calling us to the top of the ladder of love; this is exactly where our earthly reality vibrates; at that level, we just have to learn how to be spiritually selfish that is to focus on ourselves during our spiritual awakening so that we can raise our vibration and finally become a conscious co-creator of our own earthly reality!

Fate or Destiny?


The term fate “moira” in Greek means "what has been said". Thus, fate is based on people's belief system that there is an order-uniformity in the universe that cannot be changed, no matter how hard we may try and struggle. 

Our ancient ancestors believed that the three deities (moirae) - Clotho, Lachesis, and Atropos - or the three Fates, were the ones who decided the final course of human beings, not taking into account their will or their belief in something better than they themselves could bring about.

On a spiritual level, fate (moira) is the inevitable that always materializes (pre-determined to materialize, to be or to have substance) and will continue to materialize when we ignore our own life and do nothing to reconnect with our soul or true nature. 

When we abandon the course of our lives to fate, we are basically surrendering control of it to others, as well as to external situations. When we make no effort - nothing, that is, to consciously change and evolve, what happens is fatal (moireo). That is the "play" of fate.

Destiny “pepromeno” in Greek, on the other hand, denotes more positive associations than fate. In Latin, the word referring to destiny "destinare" means "that which is fixed". Although this definition also refers to the idea of pre-determined events, destiny is something we can shape and change if we will and commit ourselves (pre-destined to experience existence or to exist). 

On the opposite side of fate, there is that element of choice in destiny. Qualities such as courage, compassion, willpower, and patience can greatly assist in changing destiny.

Fate vs Destiny

Fate is what we are unable to change. Destiny, on the other hand, is that which we plan and intend to do so that we do not surrender to the randomness of fate. While fate, on the one hand, is precisely what happens when we do not take responsibility for life, destiny, on the other hand, is nothing more than what happens when there is the necessary commitment to further growth - that is, to have the will to take risks (through choice and free will). 

The well-known popular saying " is in your destiny to succeed" is only achieved through active and conscious commitments and decisions, with patience, perseverance, continuity, and consistency. As it is now understood, fate is what materializes when the course of life is left to others, who, along with the external circumstances they are subjected to, direct and determine the course and outcome of life.

It is extremely important to never doubt or forget that there are infinite possibilities in life. Fulfilling destiny means consciously redirecting the flow of our lives always in the specific direction we desire. 

While subjectively this means having and maintaining control and choice, such a thing does not objectively exist-such a thing as control or choice because the concept of "I" and "others" do not exist except in the mind.

So in this way, the answer to "we have control over our lives" is paradoxical, because we both have and do not have control over the course of our lives. It's a bit more complicated than that. 

How is Destiny Fulfilled?

I think it is time to look at how destiny is fulfilled. As long as it is consciously sought to be deciphered, developed, and evolved into a spiritual one, that is to consciously realize that destiny is somehow self-fulfilled (meant to experience existence or simply meant to exist).

While we are still operating at the level of ourselves, that is, our personality, our character, and our behavior, it is extremely important that we work so that we can take charge of our destiny. 

On spiritual paths, destiny is closely tied to the overall course of life, all the way to the end. When taking responsibility for life is chosen, destiny is also actively shaped, rather than simply leaving life to its fate. 

Fulfilling destiny involves the conscious development of a relationship with the deeper inner self and maturation on a spiritual-intellectual, emotional, mental, and physical level.

However, if there is a will (determination) to achieve it to the fullest extent possible, there is a way: We understand and deal with ourselves. We start now to reflect on our fate of who/what we are, that is to consciously understand where and how we are going through spiritual awakening keeping always in mind, that the course of our life is somehow self-actualized or self-realized (meant also to have substance and not simply meant to be).

Are Fate and Destiny Forces?

Destiny is actually the reflection of fate. Fate and destiny are interaction forces; a balanced interaction towards a new situation or occurrence in which two or more objects or events as a cause act upon one another to produce a new effect by providing and accepting love and help.

Therefore, fate furthermore as a cause reflects feelings, actions, truths, virtues, purpose, timing, character, possibilities, spiritual love, space, abilities, intent, certainties, and self-realization.

Destiny as an effect reflects emotions, reactions, values, morals, momentum, meaning, behavior, time, probabilities, fear of love, actualities, and self-fulfillment.

That further means that there are no real distinct boundaries between fate and destiny, past and future, cause and effect, cance and choice as they all constitute parts of the same procedure or the mechanism of how consciousness works through free will.

In reality, consciousness always evolves by living consciously in the present moment (neither in the past nor in the future) where everything materializes, happens, or co-exists (always meant to have purpose and meaning) as they both form and reflect the actual solutions to any problems, desires or challenges that someone can face in life through free will.

Fate as a Choice, Faith or Right?

Therefore, in order to complete ourselves is to finally know, and sense divine Kallos as beauty or excellence as an inhered right or life's purpose (through the ladder of love) and to experience spiritual love (through the ladder of fear of love) as life's meaning through action-reaction forces and free will as well, both at the same time and to the same density or degree.

Purpose and meaning of life form together the actual solution that reflects both the intended materialization and the ultimate fulfillment of a deep need or desire as an inborn right or privilege rather than a forced by life's circumstances choice or even as a leap of faith.

In this way, things will set right with no more drama, pain, or misfortune in line with  personal virtues (by exploiting purposefully the best or strongest abilities) and thus experiencing existence according to the collective morals (as a meaningful response to own abilities) in a way as they were always meant to be.

That further means to live and exist where the authentic or pure meaning of life through destiny reflects the intended fate as the true personal potential and not as a simple choice based on a leap of faith.

In this way fate as spiritual inheritage and destiny as a conquest act upon one another (fate as a purpose of life sets coincidences as destiny and destiny in turn as a meaning of living as synchronicities determines fate) to produce a new effect as interaction forces through free will: 

by giving space to an ongoing spiritual evolution through the present moment as an absolute solution, 

by finding finally the long lost "other half" where the ultimate bliss resides,
by sensing or knowing of divine Kallos both as a spiritual love, inheritance or spiritual gift (by exploiting the best abilities) and 

by finally experiencing spiritual love as a prize or conquest (by exercising the best abilities to the fullest).

What is the golden mean Nicomachean Ethics?

The golden mean or golden middle way is the desirable middle between two extremes, one of excess and the other of deficiency; it is an age old principle which holds that virtue lies between the extremes. 

According to the principle, each moral virtue is a mean or lies between extremes of pleasure or of action -- doing or feeling too much or too little. The absolute mean is different from the mean as it is relative to the individual.

It appeared in Greek thought at least as early as the Delphic maxim "nothing in excess", was discussed in Plato's Philebus. 

Aristotle analyzed the golden mean in the Nicomachean Ethics Book II: That virtues of character can be described as means. It was subsequently emphasized in Aristotelian virtue ethics.

For example, in the Aristotelian view, courage is a virtue, but if taken to excess would manifest as rashness, and, in deficiency, cowardice (see the table bellow: Sphere Of Action Or Feeling, Excess, Mean, Deficiency).

The Writer's Point of View:

According to the writer's point of view the ultimate purpose and meaning of life for humanity is to finally reach and maintain this desirable middle of golden mean as an equilibrium point of a spiritual mental state of pure bliss by consciously giving and receiving love and help.

At the equilibrium point that is the center of everything there is an infinite wellspring of creativity and love (The Golden Mean Flow Chart).

One fundamental purpose of human life is to cut through all the layers of the ladder of love (in conjunction with the ladder of fear of love) as levels of challenges by levering the most efficient character facets while exploiting the most efficient to each and every case behavioral tactics, and to uncover this wellspring within yourself, then let it flow through you.

You are a musical instrument, and the purpose of life is to allow the eternal Music of Being to play you, producing a unique song only you can produce by following the principle of golden mean mentioned above by consciously giving and receiving (offering and accepting) love and help.
Sphere Of Action Or Feeling, Excess, Mean, Deficiency
© – The Golden Mean Flow Chart
© – The Golden Mean Flow Chart