Cognitive Control and Emotional Intelligence

How are Feelings and Emotions Related?

The material world is the result of intellect (Logic and Understanding as to the two main opposite states of mind). Love and Fear comprise the two basic or primary elements of these two opposite states as Feelings and Emotions.

They also represent the Love of Life as the dominant feeling of the cognitive state of the conscious mind and the Fear of Death as the dominant emotion of the emotional state of the unconscious mind.

Bliss (Eudaimonia in Greek) is a set of feelings and emotions. Is also a complete state of well-being, happiness, blessedness, joy, unity, transcendence, completeness, wholeness, and uplifted Consciousness. A feeling of oneness and connection of all creation and in the context of virtue ethics, ‘human flourishing’. In this sense is not a subjective, but an objective, state. It ever feels expansive and infinite.

Aristotle, like Plato before him, argued that the pursuit of eudaimonia is an “activity of the soul in accordance with perfect virtue”.

Bliss = Success + Happiness (Long-Term) +Perfect Virtues

Hapiness (Short-Term) = Gratification of Pleasures

Happiness is a feeling a sense of well being, joy, or contentment, feel safe and lucky. The quality or state of being happy. Happiness is often described as a pleasant emotional state. The absence of happiness leads to stress, anxiety, depression, and loneliness.

Success is the condition of prospering, eudaimonia, well-being, happy, healthy, and prosperous.

Hapiness reflects the degree or measure of succeding.

The Heartfelt (Moral or Warmhearted) Desires do not flow from the heart but they reflect a decision that the mind makes based on the best available information or what family, religion, or society may want for us. They are supposed to bring meaning, value, purpose, and joy to us. To give freedom from suffering, fear, and anger that comes from being in harmony with Life. To bring deeper ease and a righting of relationships.

However, Compassion and kindness are above all other personal character and social traits. They come from the heart and they are virtues that lead to a peaceful and fulfilling life. As virtues, they are habits or qualities that allow the bearer to succeed at his, her, or its purpose. Thus, to identify the virtues for human beings, one must have an account of what is the human purpose.

What Feelings and Emotions Mean?

Fear of Death is a negative dominant emotion of the emotional state of mind.

Fear is selfishness. Is a powerful primary emotion that can play an important role in survival. When you face some sort of danger and experience fear, your muscles become tense, your heart rate and inspiration increase, and your mind becomes more alert. These responses ensure that you are prepared enough to effectively deal with threats in your environment. It can be an emotional response to an immediate threat.

Being scared is being self-centered. Fear is always the source of the wheel spinning. “Perfect love can cast out fear”. Fear of loneliness can cause people to live alone or even start bad relationships. Fear can hold people back in life such as fear of change, loneliness, failure, rejections, uncertainty, being judged, getting hurt, inadequacy, loss of freedom.

Love of Life is a dominant positive feeling of the cognitive state of mind.

Love is also a primary powerful feeling or choice. Choosing to love means that someone will choose to live and act by demonstrating kindness, affection, caring, liking, compassion, and tenderness regardless of the emotions felt.

Why is love a feeling or choice and not an emotion? Because it wouldn’t be love if it was depended on the ups and downs of the emotional state of someone. Love is an act of will. Affections deriving from love are emotions as the essence of love. Emotions may not be intense but they are there to some extend. Basic emotion can be seen in the face. Love feels like an emotion but is actually a positive state of mind. Love can give rise to amorous feelings and joy but also to emotions like grief and jealousy among others.

The purpose of the first (fear of death) is to finally lead to happiness and the second (love of life) to the success of personal goals by adjusting the appropriate character and behavioral traits.

Emotions are unconscious manifestations.

Emotions are the conceptual references of the feelings and can be only felt or imagined. What is the conceptual reference of the feeling of love? It can be a happy face that declares happiness.

According to Phycology Today, an emotion “can only ever felt through the emotional experiences it gives rise to.”. “Emotions are not conscious but instead manifest in the unconscious mind”.

Emotions and different feelings are deeply interrelated. Emotions underline the brain’s activity, behavior, and mood. They play a critical role in people’s lives by influencing how they engage with others and the decisions they make.

There are different types of emotions and they are complex and work together to create the emotional life underneath the physical fife experience.

The range of emotions is impacted by factors as the behavior, the culture’s previous traumatic experiences.

The choices we make, the action we take, and the perception we have are all influenced by the emotions we are experiencing at any given time.

Basic emotions under primary fear are sadness, disgust, and anger. The elimination or absence of negative emotions or fear (as a feeling of need or shortage/scarcity) finally leads to happiness.

Sadness is something that people experience from time to time. Is an emotional state or emotion characterized by feelings of disappointment, grief, hopelessness, and a bad mood.

Disgust is the emotion that evolved as a reaction to foods that might be harmful or fatal or when people observe others engaging in behaviors that they find distasteful, immoral, or evil.

Anger is a powerful emotion characterized by feelings of hostility, agitation, frustration, and antagonism towards others. Even though it considered a weak (negative) emotion (as a strong feeling of need or shortage/scarcity) it can help someone to clarify his needs. Uncontrolled anger can be a problem when it turns to aggression, abuse, or violence.

How Feelings and Emotions Affect Reality?

Hapiness tends to be the one that people strive for the most.

According to Social Psychology Review emotion is a “feedback system whose influence on behavior is indirect”. The behavior is used to “pursue (or avoid) anticipate emotional outcomes”.

Most people want to feel more positive than negative. The elimination of fear or risk of (negative) emotions can cause a positive experience.

Traumatic emotions impact emotions such as nightmares increased fear, anxiety, anger, sadness and quilt.

The feelings are conscious manifestations. What can be the concept behind the emotion of the fear of death? Only distressful feelings of alienation and emptiness.

They both (feelings and emotions) come as mental inputs to the conscious-subconscious part of the mind in order to be perceived and felt and to finally turn into bliss. Bliss is the ultimate goal of a human’s life cycle and its real scope of existence.

Every event as a reaction is both an experience and an occurrence at the same time. Every event as an experience or occurrence is either perceived, felt, or seen. You actually choose what to see, feel, and experience through the conscious and the subconscious part of the mind (the human heart).

Experiences can be both emotional and physical sensations such as pain, hunger bringing about feelings as conscious experiences seeing or believing them as true.

A thought by default at the mental perception level (in order to be perceived) comes always with the opposite idea. It carries the potential of being expressed at the physical level as reality. So it is a half part action half part a potential reaction. Half part a cognition half part a conception. Half part a thought half part an idea. Half part true or real half part false or wrong.

An event by default at the mental expression level is always the light deriving from a divided thought (mentioned above) into half part an experience (reflecting the external environment, space, or magnetic field) half part an occurrence (reflecting the internal environment, time, or electric field). Half part feeling and half part an emotion (illusion). The half part problem as an expressed attitude (character) the half part of the solution as an expressed behavior.

Feelings and emotions they both influence the kind of experience lived on the spot and then the personality of a person. Personality, half part character half part behavior. Personality creates personal reality.

Personality shapes the present moment. As an ability. Ability, half part probability half part possibility. Half part past half part future.

Feelings Vs. Emotions: What’s the difference?

They are all traits of humans. According to Publication Psychology Today, “emotions are multi-faceted experiences” or “internal subjective experiences, facial expressions and physiological reactions”.

We have to state an important distinction here that is so much misunderstood. The fundamental difference between feelings and emotions is that feelings are always positively manifested consciously. Emotions are always negatively manifested unconsciously (or subconsciously).

Strong (positive) feelings reflect the feelings of surplus/abundance or the fulfillment of wands as a (low) level and resistance to fear or risk and strong motives or goals. Weak (positive) feelings reflect the (weak) feelings of a surplus/abundance or the fulfillment of wands – feelings of unfulfillment) as a (high) level and resistance to fear or risk and weak motives or goals.

Strong (negative) emotions reflect the weak emotions of needs and wands as a (low) level and resistance to fear or risk and strong intentions or objectives. Weak (negative) emotions reflect the strong emotions of needs and wands as a (high) level and resistance to fear or risk and weak intentions or objectives.

Strong or weak (positive) feelings bond with strong or weak (negative) emotions in order to create reality. Strong (positive) feelings lead to success as their ultimate goal by exploiting the less possible self-centered approach. The less possible self-centered approach draws by default the lowest possible level of fear and the other way around. They always go together hand by hand according to the Spiritual Law and Newton’s Third Law of Motion (As above So below).

The level of fear (as opposing feelings/emotions of needs/wands or shortage/surplus work as a regulator of the level of resistance of fear against the density of feelings and emotions) is always the determining factor for the intensity of both feelings and emotions. Feelings and emotions as forces causes and effects always come in pairs – equal and opposite action-reaction force pairs (Newton’s Third Law of Motion). Their sum is always zero (0).

Strong feelings = Strong feelings of surplus/abundance or the fulfillment of wands = Low level of fear = Strong motives or goals = High level of potential success

Weak feelings = Weak feelings of surplus/abundance or the fulfillment of wands = High level of fear = Weak motives or goals = Low level of potential success

Strong emotions = Weak emotions of need or shortage/scarcity = Low level of fear = Strong intentions or objectives = High level of potential happiness

Weak emotions = Strong emotions of need or shortage/scarcity = High level of fear = Weak intentions or objectives = Low level of potential happiness

The closer to the center of the system from both sides (point 0) the lower the density of the level of fear (as feelings/emotions of needs/wands or shortage/surplus) the lower the resistance against fear and the stronger the impact of both feelings and emotions (strong).

The closer to the center point from the side of fear the lower the density of the level of fear (as weak feelings of need or shortage/scarcity) and the lower the level of resistance against fear (less fear) the stronger the degree of the emotion (strong) and the higher the degree or level of happiness.

The higher the degree or level of happiness the higher the level of success and the higher the level of Bliss. The higher the level of bliss the higher the level of Consciousness and vise versa.

The closer to the center from the side of love the lower the density of the level of fear (as strong feelings of surplus/abundance or the fulfillment of wands). The lower the level of resistance against fear (less fear) the stronger the level of love (towards the others and not of himself) and the higher the level of success and the opposite level of happiness, bliss, and Consciousness.

Stronger feelings have a higher (not lower) density value close to zero (from 0 to 4) and the most contribution to bliss. Zero as a feeling has the strongest density value. Self-less.

Weaker feelings have a lower (not higher as most people believe) density value (from 6 to 9) and less contribution to bliss. Nine has the weakest density value. Selfish.

Feelings with a density value +5 are considered neutral (neither strong nor weak).

Weak (negative) emotions (as strong feelings of need or shortage/scarcity) may seem unwanted or terrifying but their ultimate scope is to balance the system and to finally lead to happiness by eliminating the risks and the subsequent fear (lessen fear).

Stronger (negative) emotions (as weak emotions of needs or shortage/scarcity) have a higher density value close to zero (from 0 to -4) and the most contribution to bliss. Zero as an emotion has the strongest density value. Fear-less.

Weaker (negative) emotions (as strong feelings of needs or shortage/scarcity) have a lower density value (from -6 to -9) and less contribution to bliss. Minus nine has the weakest density value. Fearful.

Emotions with density value -5 are considered neutral (neither strong nor weak).

Feelings and emotions turn towards events as experiences and occurrences positive or negative after the intervention of the conscious-unconscious and subconscious part of the mind. Their bonding leads to bliss as their ultimate goal in the human life cycle and core experience.

Bliss matters the most and lays behind all actions-reactions of a human being as a set of feelings and emotions felt on the present moment as a new emotional state underneath the physical state of existence.

Cognitive Control and Emotional Intelligence

In order for someone to become happier and healthier there is a need for managing stress (level of fear) feelings and emotions, improving relationships, and bringing life into balance.

If someone feels like stress, anxiety, depression, anger, or disconnected from feelings and emotions, there is a need for building cognitive control and emotional intelligence.

It helps to change the levels of stress and anxiety, stay connected with the inner self, follow through hopes and dreams, develop the capacity, recognize and understand own feelings and emotions.

Develop the ability to learn, remember, reason, and solve problems and make sound judgments particularly as contracted with emotion.

Learning to tolerate unpleasant emotions brings stress into balance.

To discover the capacity for experiencing positive (strong) feelings by eliminating (weak) negative emotions.

Learning the skills of cognitive control and emotional intelligence enables someone to overcome stress and stay healthy and happy.

Being able to manage and relieve stress by staying balanced and focused and in control no matter the challenges.

Exescising meditations to easy stress and anxienty.

By using senses to relieve stress by taking deep breaths and quicly relax.

Cognitive control and emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and use feelings and emotions in positive ways in order to release stress and anxiety, to communicate effectively with others and overcome challenges and defuse conflict by:

Self-management in order to control feelings as behaviors in healthy ways and adapt to changing circumstances.

Self-awareness in order to recognize your own emotions and how to affect them by exploiting the appropriate to the case character traits, strengths, and weaknesses.

Social awareness in order to recognize emotions and feelings the needs and wands of the other people and feel comfortable socially.

Relationship management in order to manage good relationships, to communicate clearly, and inspire others.

How Cognitive Control and Emotional Intelligence Works?

Phase I Mental PerceptionInputs (Action)

In the first quadrant, there comes the problem (a mental input believed or conceived as true) as a danger, a threat, a personal or social trigger that needs to be controlled, eliminated or avoided. Feelings represent the first quadrant and they appear as concepts or common sense. They also reflect the motives, intentions, or overall willingness as a goal-oriented approach in order to solve that problem.

In the second quadrant, the risks of the previous undertaking are assessed in order to adjust the proper attitude and anticipate the probable actions and the possible outcomes of every chosen action, as a reaction. Emotions are action-oriented as intentions or objectives towards possible actions-reactions and represent the second quadrant. They are perceived as ideas (through the 6th sense – illusions).

Attitudes can be personal or social character traits you have towards other people. Strong social character traits lead to good relationships with others. Weak personal character traits can result in being distracted or dislike. Most of the traits are established through training from parents while others from peer groups.

In the third step or quadrant after the assessment of the risks of the previous step, there is a need to build a better understanding of the risks involved on how you feel from the inside recalling previous internal subjective experiences or how comfortable you feel about the situation and the subsequent emotions felt (level of fear) on the emotional state of mind according to your values. As a result, (negative) emotions turn from intentions to active character traits as probabilities.

In the fourth quadrant, the personal and social traits are examined as personal and social abilities in order to determine whether the solution (to act or be acted on in a specified way) to the problem will succeed or not based on previous external social experiences, opinions, and critical judgment or thinking by adjusting the appropriate to the case behavior.

Phase II- Mental ExpressionOutputs (Reaction)

There comes into the play the appropriate to the case or situation decision making through a choice based on both common sense and the critical Judgment or thinking (free will) of the conscious part of the mind, associated with the needed skills as a reaction based on both character and behavioral traits.

Reactions as events are both perceived by the conscious mind as experiences (positive or negative) and felt subconsciously by the human heart as occurrences at the present moment on the spot based on how much satisfaction as happiness and success they bring to someone’s life both to the internal and external environment depending on the fulfillment of the needs and wands. But only the development of compassion and understanding for others can bring tranquility and long-term happiness that all people seek.

Phase III- Possible Outcomes – Feedback and Follow Up

Dissatisfaction as negative experiences by being fearful trigger weak (negative) emotions that are action-oriented (as strong feelings of need or shortage/scarcity) and as result, they now turn motives (feelings/thoughts which are goal-oriented) and emotions (as intentions) to motions (reactions as choices of free will through the critical judgment or thinking of the conscious part of the mind) and then the follow up takes place as a new loop or cycle towards new undertakings, events, actions, reactions, or experiences through a different attitude or approach continuing from the second quadrant.

However total satisfaction by fulfilling both needs and wands, through the elimination of the risks or fear (no risk – fearless) finally brings to the surface strong (negative) emotions (as weak feelings of need or shortage/scarcity) that finally turn to inaction (no motion – lack of action/reaction or activity) giving space to sustainable happiness and success (bliss) by balancing the system through Synchronicity by bonding the Experiences with the Occurrences creating Coincidences and by allowing for new undertakings towards new directions and the assessment of the risks as new potential threats or problems.

Satisfaction = Strong Feelings and Emotions of the Fulfillment of needs and wants = Turn uncertainty to certainty = The cognitive and emotional state of mind of feeling happy and fulfilled = Prone to Inaction

Dissatisfaction = Weak Feelings and Emotions due to the unfulfillment of needs and wants = The cognitive and emotional state of mind of feeling unhappy and unfulfilled = Unable to turn uncertainty to certainty = Prone to Action-Reaction

In Conclusion

Love of Life and Fear of death comprise the two opposite cognitive and emotional states of mind representing Feelings and Emotions accordingly.

The conscious part of the mind by bonding Feelings (as Space) and Emotions (as Time) through the appropriate cognitive mechanism (The Reality Circular Flow) finally turns them into reality experienced as a coherent Space-Time continuum.

Strong (positive) feelings and strong (negative) emotions through the elimination of the risks or fear (as weak emotions of needs or shortage/scarcity or strong feelings of surplus/abundance or the fulfillment of wands) are mental inputs into the system while increased Bliss and elevated Consciousness are their mental outputs.

They are deeply interrelated and they play a critical role in human life and the earthy living experience.

Positive and negative experiences or occurrences as events or reactions depending on the degree of satisfaction or dissatisfaction against the fulfillment or not of needs and wants, trigger the opposite feelings and emotions as they both shape the personality through the appropriate character and behavioral traits.

Cognitive control and emotional intelligence is the way to recognize and develop the appropriate human personal and social traits or virtues (abilities) by exploring the deep-rooted motives and incentives (not the heartfelt moral or warmhearted desires, but the Perfect Virtues) needed towards a happier and more successful life by always bonding the active character traits (probabilities) with the passive behavioral traits (possibilities).

In this way, spirit bonds with flesh in a destiny that feels more like a positive and pleasurable life journey by turning simple Earthy Experiences and Occurrences to Coincidences of Total Satisfaction (Bliss) aligning Conscious-Unconscious and Subconscious Mind through Synchronicity instead of random, unpredictable, and undesirable trials not only as an ultimate goal but also as a new and uplifting way of every day living of the inner self and as well the others.

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